My wife is using telework against me.

I always thought it’d be a good thing. I specifically chose IT because the end goal was to work from home. I work from home 3x a week. Go into the office 2x. My wife is a nurse. She’s a nurse manager so it’s physical, but not as physical as it was when she was a floor nurse. She is constantly using me working from home against me. When I ask her to help with chores, she says that I’m home all day. She is constantly throwing it in my face as if I don’t have actual work to do at home. She has pretty much stopped cooking, rarely cleans, and just comes home and lays on the couch until it’s bed time. How did you all deal with this? I am at my wits end. Note: I am the bread winner by about $40k if that makes a difference.